When something doesn’t fit right.
We’ve all been there. You’re ready to try on all the clothes. Whether in your home or in the fitting room at your favorite local boutique. You’re cautiously optimistic and nervous all at the same time. Clothes shopping can be scary.
As women, we are taught we are defined by our bodies. By the size of our pants. Go up in size= less worthy. That, my loves, is diet culture. Diet culture is the worshipping of thinness, equating living in a smaller body to moral superiority. Clothes shopping can be incredibly triggering to just about all of us in this diet obsessed society. There is always something “wrong” with our bodies. But is there? Really?
I have heard “I’m built weird” more times than I can count. I have been in tears in that fitting room more times than I care to admit. Because, when the pants don’t fit, it’s not simply a matter of fact, it is what it says about me. I failed. I am unworthy. I am the reason the pants don’t fit.
I did something wrong?
Here is what we are going to do, loves. If something does not fit (and that will happen, nothing fits everyone all the time) we are going to find something that does. We are not going to let it say something about us. We are going to recognize that clothes are cut differently and the little tag on the inside with a number says NOTHING about who we are as humans. I know it is hard. We have been conditioned to define our worth by our bodies and clothes shopping can be incredibly triggering. Even years in my recovery from my eating disorder and I still struggle with trying on clothes.
Photography by Sierra_selene_
At Mary Rose, we have 1 rule. There is no crying in the fitting room. If something does not fit, we try again.
Your worth is not in your clothing size. You are not defined by the size of your pants.
Article credit : Julie Allen. CEO, Mary Rose NW Boutique. Founder, Mary Rose Foundation. Author and Eating Disorder Awareness Activist